February 27, 2016

 

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When you register by Thursday, March 3rd, at 11:59pm Eastern Time
for the Speak Up Women Conference, you qualify to win one of the following giveaways from our impactful elite speakers and amazing Speak Up Women team:

 


 

Cherie Corso - Panelist, Speak Up in Business Panel Cherie Corso is gifting and giving away a gift basket filled with GHEADER-32 Organics products to one lucky registrant! Thank You, Cherie!

 

 

 


 

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Jessica Abo is gifting and giving away a 1-hour coaching session to help one lucky registrant turn her passion into action! Thank You, Jessica! images

 

 


 

 

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Experienced venture capital investor, Jeanne M. Sullivan, will meet for a half-day session to support your business vision.  “Let’s talk about packaging, connections and how to get funded or brainstorm ideas to scale your business.” Thank You, Jeanne!

 

 


 

 

 

Kathy Zucker - Panelist, Speak Up in Your Community PanelKathy Zucker is gifting and giving away a 1-hour consultation with one lucky registrant! Thank you, Kathy!

 

 


 

 

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Bonnie Bruderer, our esteemed Emcee & Mistress of Ceremonies, is gifting and giving away 1 hour of media training. Thank you, Bonnie!

 

 

 

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Laura Fredricks is gifting and giving awTheAskay ½ hour of her valuable time to one lucky registrant plus the winner will receive a signed copy of her book. Thank You, Laura!

 

 


 

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Karen Taylor Bass is gifting and giving away one complimentary 45-minute PR Coaching session to one lucky registrant. Thank You, Karen!

 


 

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Joan Pelzer of Joan Pelzer Media, our amazing social media strategist for the Speak Up Women Conference, is gifting and giving away a 1-hour Social Media Roadmap Session to one lucky registrant in which Joan Pelzer Media will evaluatelogo-5 current social media and help craft a strategic plan for moving ahead to create relationships online rather than just connections! Thank You, Joan!

 


 

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Jennefer Witter of The Boreland Groupour fabulous publicist for the Speak Up Women Conference, is gifting and giving away a one-ho5ur PR tele coaching session to one lucky registrant plus a signed copy of her book. Thank
You, Jennefer!

 

 


 

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Our Founder, Jennifer S. Wilkov, is gifting and giving away a one-hour Reset Your Mindset session to one lucky registrant plus a signed copy of her book, Boys Before Business: The Single Girl’s Guide to Having It All

 

 

 

YBIYH_LogoJennifer is also gifting and giving away a one-hour JumpStart Your Book Session to one lucky registrant in which she will provide guidance and direction for the winner’s book or script idea, concept, draft, published or produced work.  Thank You, Jennifer!

 


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Judy Goss is gifting and giving away a 30-minute media training and a complimentary online Over 40 Females logomembership to
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Michelle Tillis Lederman is gifting and giving away one coaching call for one lucky registrant. Thank You, Michelle!

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Jessica Minhas is gifting and giving away a 1-hour consultation on how to use your story for good or media/speaking coaching for one lucky registrant. Thank You, Jessica!

 

 

 

 


 

 

Victoria MoranVictoria Moran, one of our esteemed Keynote Speakers, is gifting and giving away a Vegan Lifestyle Coaching Session via phone or Skype to one lucky registrant. Thank You, Victoria!

 

 

 

 


 

 

HLc5o6rUAlyssa Peek of Peek Photography, one of our fabulous photographers for the Speak Up Women Conference, is gifting and giving away one photo shoot session valued at $850 to one lucky registrant. Thank You, Alimages-2yssa!

 

 

 

 


 


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February 25, 2016

Guest Post from Bonnie Bruderer, Emcee and Mistress of Ceremonies at the Speak Up Women Conference

 

It’s funny, I never used to get what I want. I was always the person that would “go the extra mile”, help others, do more than expected. You would think this is a great way to get ahead in life, but the truth is, it is not. I never seemed to win or create the type of success I was looking for.

You see, not everyone is a good person. Don’t get me wrong, there are tons of good people and unfortunately tons of bad, too. I often found that I was giving more that was right to some of the bad sometimes, and this cost me from being able to create what I want in my life. In fact, through much of my career, I had to work in situations where I had to work with some people that fell in the “bad” bucket.

I will admit it, full transparency, that I have gone down wrong rabbit holes with wrong people. You know, those kinds of decisions you make in life where you have that nagging feeling, from the second you made the decision, that is was not right. Then, you allow it to keep gnawing at you, as your head for some reason nods “yes”, and you keep getting deeper and deeper. That feeling when you are asked to do yet another thing and your eyes fill up with tears and you can just taste it in your mouth. I know this is not just me, right? It is amazing how many times, from the age of babysitting days, where the parents would call and say they were going to be a few hours late, when you had a swim meet at 6 the next morning, to CEOs who expect you to drop everything and work through the night and weekends on their dreams.

Well, then I learned something. I think it was more of an “I’m gonna snap” than a learning, but I got myself into a situation where there was nothing else to do but SPEAK UP! Then, a funny thing happened. It worked! I got results. People started respecting the boundaries I would set and not taking advantage.

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Then it was like fuel. I started to speak up in all areas of my life, and you know what? Everyone started reacting differently. I had boyfriends apologizing, people changing patterns of always being late, not working with certain clients, because they did not align with my vision.

Speaking up became a verb and now it is used daily, for everything. Business meetings, scheduling, even my dog, when she wants to go play and I am working. I say what I mean and always back it up by meaning what I say.

I was not able to create a successful company and brand until this happened, and now I have built a team and a network where this is the “norm”. It is not unusual for meetings to be filled with people voicing their “speaking up” and we get more done and everyone is happy.

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I look forward to meeting you at the Speak Up Women Conference on March 5th at the United Nations and hearing about your experience!


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February 22, 2016

What’s different about the Speak Up Women Conference?

We all want to go to events for different reasons. Some want to go to meet others. Some want to go because of the topic or to hear the speaker being featured. Others want to go because there is a chance to network in a great location or over great food or wine.

Here are the top 5 experiences you don’t want to miss at the Speak Up Women Conference at the UN on March 5th:

 

1) The Caliber of Women You’ll Get to Connect With

The women who attend the Speak Up Women Conference are  individuals who are committed to making a difference in the world by using their voices to build better businesses, communities and lives. They invest their greatest assets – their time, money, energy and efforts – to be around others who are doing all they can to create a better, bolder world for others…and themselves. They know great things happen at events at the United Nations, a different caliber location for such an auspicious opportunity.

They also know that it’s worth it to invest their time here among like-minded women who are truly moving and shaking the world.

If these are the people you have been looking to be in the same room with, then make sure you are in the room at the Speak Up Women Conference.

 

2) The Featured Topics of Discussion at a Single Event

In just one day at this one event, the Speak Up Women Conference, you will find yourself in conversations with other motivated, courageous, and inspiring women about speaking up in business, for money you need to grow your business and dreams, in your home, in your personal relationships with family and friends, and in your community – not to mention the keynote conversations about the impact speaking up can have when you are courageous enough to do it.

In order to cover all of the topics we will be discussing at the Speak Up Women Conference, you would have to pay for and attend at least 5 different conferences, including 5 different locations and associated travel and accommodations as well as time away from your family, friends and weekend commitments, not to mention childcare considerations and more.

 

3) Don’t Just Get a Book; Meet the Author and Get It Signed

At the Speak Up Women Conference, you won’t just buy a book. You can do that at home. You will have the unique pleasure and chance to meet and talk with the author as she signs your book.

Whether it is Victoria Moran, Laura Day, Judy Goss, Laura Fredricks, Michelle Tillis Lederman, Kelly Keenan Trumpbour, or any of our other powerful speakers, this is your opportunity to meet them in person, have your book personally signed, and take home not just a book, but the experience of meeting each one of them.

 

4) Time to Meet Fellow Attendees

The Speak Up Women Conference doesn’t only give you time to meet the phenomenal speakers appearing at the event, it also provides you with time during breakfast, lunch and the after-party to connect with fellow attendees. You never know who you are going to meet at an event like this.

With the type of women attending, you may just meet the one person who could be that game changer for you and your endeavors, business and interests.

5) Special Guest Appearance by Jillian Manus – At the Speak Up Women Conference, you won’t just eat lunch. Jillian Manus will be joining us to share her remarks about speaking up, why it is important and how it does make an impact.

Why should this make a difference for you? Not sure who Jillian Manus is or why you would want to listen to her?

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Jillian Manus is a presently a Managing Partner of Structure VC, a Silicon Valley early-stage venture capital firm providing capital and brand strategy to tech companies focused on creating value in under utilized assets and excess capacity. Structure is the Architects of the Zero Waste Economy. Prior to SC, Jillian has had a multifaceted career as co-director of M & A for Credit Suisse in Zurich, Director of Development for Universal and Warner Bros Studios, TV agent for ICM, Associate Publisher of Upside Magazine. She is the founder of 3 companies, Global Goal Sports Management, Manus Media & Literary Agency and Broad Strategy, a brand acceleration and investment company.

She attended Oxford University and NYU where she served on the board of Trustees. Ms. Manus is a highly regarded public speaker, providing political and business commentary in both print and television, including Bloomberg News, Hardball and Fox News.

Jillian sits on numerous corporate and philanthropic boards including Box.org, Center for Investigative Reporting, Duke Engage National, Hyp3r, Iggbo, NYU Tisch School of the Arts, Communities in Schools and College Track. She served seven years as Chair of The Woman’s Conference where she joined Maria Shriver to create the largest women’s conference in the world; 15,700 women STRONG.

As an active philanthropist, she created the Manus Family Foundation whose mission is “to create paths of safety and self-sufficiency for women and children.” The two primary levers of investment for her are education and health. Jillian was recently selected by the San Francisco Business Times as a 2016 honoree for the Most Influential Women in Bay Area Business.

 

Jillian speaks up and has spoken up in all the areas of her life that we will be discussing during the Speak Up Women Conference. This is your opportunity to not just be in the room with her, but to hear what she has to say about why speaking up has made huge difference for her in her life – in business, in her community, and for herself.

 

So don’t miss the Speak Up Women Conference! Time is running out and so are our limited number of seats!

 

Haven’t purchased your ticket yet? The Speak Up Women Conference at the United Nations is on March 5th. Time is running out! Don’t miss out on this elite experience to raise your game, and your life, to the next level by learning how to really speak up and make an impact.


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February 22, 2016

Guest Post from Laura Day, Panelist, How to Speak Up & What’s Holding You Back Panel at the Speak Up Women Conference

When I set to work predicting the future for a company, I am rarely introduced as a psychic.  And when I’m giving a client information, I never say, “I have an intuition that … ”

This is not because intuition isn’t accepted. It’s really because I am a woman.

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Let me explain.

 

Whereas men are assumed to be logical, women have struggled with how to express their most brilliant and accurate intuitive knowing without sounding illogical, irresponsible, or emotional. Because we fear being perceived that way, we hold ourselves back from presenting our best ideas in a timely and convincing fashion.

We live in a world that values data, and yet most innovative ideas and intelligent detours are prescient — and therefore made before the proof is available. They are “gut” decisions,” intuitive” ones. When decisions are based only on pre-existing information, they are rarely exceptional or creative. They tend to get you to the usual place, the usual way. History is not destiny. If it were, we would all be stock market billionaires!

The female brain is physiologically structured to allow more communication between its hemispheres than men have.  It is, in fact, more able to take in and consider all kinds of data. In other words, for us, the left brain knows what the right brain is doing! Many women have not, however, been able to translate this potential advantage into a language that helps us empower ourselves and motivate others to act.

How many times have you found yourself in a compromising situation because you ignored your own voice? How often have you allowed others to take credit for your great ideas because you didn’t feel confident about airing them? How often have you been unable to make someone understand and embrace your correct point of view?

Our brain structure gives women an intellectual flexibility that allows us to evolve our beliefs when new information is presented.  However, we need to be attuned to those times when flexibility crosses the line into doubt.  We take in many sides, some of them conflicting, and we need to learn how to pick and present a right choice with certainty.

 

Here are some simple ways that you can use your unique female brain and intuition to get your ideas heard:

 

A) Dialogue with your impressions. If you feel something is off, converse with that feeling until you can pinpoint and identify something tangible to express.

 

B) Document and date-stamp your impressions and the actions that you believe they merit. Follow up by proving or disproving your ideas. Note how often your prescient ideas were correct. Not only does this allow you to feel more secure about your “gut feelings,” but you will also have the statistics to back them up!

 

C) Note every time you change your point of view merely to accommodate someone else’s take on a situation. Once again, document and date-stamp what you observe (emailing yourself is a good way of doing this) and refer to it later, when the outcome becomes clear.

 

D) Practice presenting points of view that you cannot immediately back up with numbers or historical facts. Don’t use terms like “I feel” or “I believe” when you are proposing an idea for which there is not yet hard proof. Pose a question instead. “What if we marketed our product to utilities instead of directly to the consumer?” You will notice that when you take a position, you can often — with a bit of research — locate the facts to support it. Keep track of your “hits” — the predictions that turn out to be true — both for yourself and as proof, should it be needed, of the effectiveness of your approach.

 

E) Own up to your mistakes and detail for yourself where you took a wrong turn in your thinking/intuition. You will train yourself to “target” the intuitive information you are looking for, express it more methodically, and troubleshoot your process the next time.

If you do these simple exercises and document and verify your own intuition, especially the accuracy of your predictions, you will find a new confidence and a language to express your intuition clearly.

Everyone who stands out as a leader in any area is someone who is using and expressing her intuition effectively. She sees what is coming and gives voice to her vision with authority and clarity.

This can be you!
I look forward to meeting you at the Speak Up Women Conference on March 5th at the United Nations and hearing about your experience!

 

Join the woman 20/20 calls, “The Psychic of Wall Street”, author Laura Day, for this illuminating discussion on how to awaken your intuition and breakthrough what’s holding you back!

New York Times Bestselling author Laura Day has spent nearly three decades helping individuals, organizations, and companies use their innate intuitive abilities to create profound change. Newsweek Magazine calls her “The $10,000-a-Month Psychic” because “When business people need a crystal ball, they turn to consultant Laura Day, the ‘intuitionist’.” The Independent dubbed her “The Psychic of Wall Street”. “A” List Hollywood Stars and Wall Street executives all praise her abilities to hone in on future predictions with astounding accuracy including the last recession.

Laura’s work has helped demystify intuition and bring it into the mainstream, she demonstrate its practical, verifiable uses in the fields of business, science, medicine and personal growth. She has trained thousands of people to use their brains, perceptions and “sixth sense” in effective ways to realize their goals.

Day is the New York Times bestselling author of 6 books including, Practical Intuition, How to Rule the World from Your Couch and The Circle: How the Power of a Single Wish Can Change Your Life. Read about Laura in Newsweek, Om Times and 20/20, and watch her interview excerpts.

 


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February 22, 2016

Guest Post from Judy Goss, Moderator, How to Speak Up & What’s Holding You Back Panel at the Speak Up Women Conference

 

Before you SPEAK UP, make sure you know WHY it is you want to talk about it.

I’m writing this with the assumption that you want to market yourself to the world, increase your visibility and make a living from what you love, right?

Yes, of course – we all want to do that on varying levels, whether you have your own business, are a part-time freelancer or are simply trying to get ahead in your career as an expert. The problem is, we need to have a rock-solid grasp of WHO and WHAT we are and WHY we are doing what we do before we start growing.

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I have heard countless times that today’s marketing is all about “authenticity.” Being authentic can be tough, especially when combining it in the professional world. I stopped myself countless times from admitting I had been through bankruptcy because I wanted to be known as an “astute businesswoman.” Little did I know that telling the truth about my story would inspire and motivate others, which was really what my companies were all about! So it came full circle and helped me in the end, when I could have saved time and wrapped my “real self” into my marketing in the first place. Real stories sell – Trump admitted his bankruptcies, why couldn’t I?

At the heart of it, speaking about yourself (and/or your business!) requires maintaining a consistent message to your audience that you are who you are, you know what you are selling, and within that message is why you are selling/offering what you do.

A good way to find where to begin is to write down the top three reasons of what your intentions are with your business or career in the first place, and tape it on the wall where you will see it every day. Here are mine when I started Over 40 Females:

  • To make the women over 40 demographic more relevant and thus create more opportunities for women.
  • To give women over 40 a platform to be heard and celebrated while connecting them with each other forming a close-knit community.
  • To take that exclusive community for women over 40 and provide resources to draw from ranging from business building to spiritual guidance to media exposure.

A great way to be consistent with your story is to come up with a tagline for your company. Or, if you are a sales rep or don’t have your own business, you can still have a quote that follows you around and represents your personal story in just a few words – put it on your email signature, post it on Facebook, show it everywhere you market yourself. The most important part is to be consistent. Over 40 Females is “Your Network. Your World. Your Community.” Our motto is “Connect, Encourage and Inspire” but I didn’t feel like that that was enough – it doesn’t really describe what we are, so we came up with a tagline that as soon as you see our company name, you will have an idea of who we are and what we do.

The why? It should be in your messaging. One of my favorite videos is one Simon Sintek did, it’s about 20 minutes and it changes my life every time I see it:

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Here is an example of “Who” and “What” Over 40 Females is:

A live and online networking community for women over the age of 40 to give women a platform to be heard, a place to network personally and professionally, a hub for educational resources and an impassioned community for women over the age of 40 with the motto “Connect, Encourage and Inspire.”

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“Why” would you join us?

We help women over 40 who are in transition, going through a re-invention or re-building their lives professionally or personally. The ways we do this is by connecting them with other like-minded women, providing them constant resources through our experts with teleseminars, educational videos and more, offering them unique ways to promote their businesses or careers and giving them a place to come where everyone feels like extended family – a place where women over 40 finally belong.

What is YOUR why?

 

I look forward to meeting you at the Speak Up Women Conference on March 5th at the United Nations and hearing about your experience!


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February 22, 2016

Guest Post from Karen Taylor Bass, Panelist, How to Speak Up & What’s Holding You Back Panel at the Speak Up Women Conference

 

The very thing we are forced to hide, is the very thing that makes us powerful. Words. Voice. Speaking. Confidence. Shine. Have you ever thought about the power you yield when you speak up? Speaking up is very scary, but super liberating when you discover your voice.

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I was born in Jamaica, the beautiful island. At a tender age, I remember my mother telling me that children should be seen and not heard. That phrase stayed with me, lingered and festered into a sore. All I can remember is that every time we had company, I wanted to perform for them like all kids. You know – talk, engage, sing, dance, act a fool – simply be heard and seen. But, I couldn’t.

It shouldn’t come as a surprise that I developed into a meek, insecure, quiet and shy little girl through young adulthood. I grew up uncertain of my voice, gift and power. That was not my mother’s intention, but her mom had probably done the same to her. This was simply generational loving. Oh boy, lucky me.

When I arrived at high school, there was something of an intervention from God via my English teacher. Ms. Borusso challenged me in AP (Advance Placement) English to tap into my power, my voice and speak up. My teacher said, “I want you to learn and embrace your power. I want you to join the drama club, observe and watch other people tap into their power. Then I want you to unleash your emotions on paper by journaling, and lastly, start looking into the mirror speak kindly to yourself.” Needless to say, I didn’t take all of Ms. Borusso’s advice, but I did start journaling. Baby steps.

When I arrived on my college campus, I was still shy, but making a bold move to cut my long hair into a bob gave me an injection of confidence. My haircut was the first decision I made sans my mother’s approval. It’s funny how a small tweak within can become a personal statement. I started to realize that speaking up and advocating for self did not just mean words. Speaking up is looking within and having the guts to take action, pivot and create a movement. I joined the newspaper and TV club, radio station, and the black student organization. Oh yeah, I co-starred in a school production.

It was the culmination of several moments and years at college that I decided that being heard and speaking up was a life and death matter. I truly wanted to be heard (globally) and impact others to get their message out. Becoming a media publicist, author and speaker has allowed me to create, write, communicate and leverage the careers of many A-listers, executives, entrepreneurs and small business owners. The biggest lesson I’ve learned to date is life always gives you clues. Take the time to listen, sit still, journal, reflect and discover what’s holding you back from speaking up.

  

Tips to Speaking up and finding your authentic voice:

  • Time matters. Take daily moments to identify your magic and voice.
  • Keep your ears to the ground. It’s always better to listen and learn from others. People will always show and tell you who they are.
  • Everyone has an opinion. Listen to what others have to say about you, but never allow others to define you.
  • Do something radical. Shake up your image to build inner confidence.
  • Open your mouth. You are an expert, start talking up self and build confidence.
  • Baby steps. Set realistic goals and commit to them for 30 days, 45, 60, 90 and so forth.

 

Karen Taylor Bass is a highly sought after PR Expert, speaker, media coach, and best-selling author. Follow her on Twitter @thebrandnewmom and www.karentaylorbass.com.

I look forward to meeting you at the Speak Up Women Conference on March 5th at the United Nations and hearing about your experience!


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February 22, 2016

Guest Post from Stephanie Parker, Panelist, Speak Up in Your Community Panel at the Speak Up Women Conference

 

I am honored to have the opportunity to be part of the Speak Up Women Conference at the UN. I never imagined that my little Zipadee-Zip invention I created to help our daughter sleep would set the stage and build a platform for speaking up and affecting change and community like it has. ‘Speaking up’ for me has been two-fold. Both my faith and desire to give back are the driving factors that have given our business a much bigger purpose and mission. I’d like to share how I’ve been able to grow support and community around these causes in hopes that you can apply some of these principles to speak up in your own communities and affect change.

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How to build a community with your voice:

Identify your passions: Before you can embark on a mission, you have to identify what you are willing to fight for… what defines you. The road will not always be easy when you make a commitment to speaking up so it’s important that you are personally invested in what you are fighting for or speaking up about.

Our Sleepingbaby.com Company started from one of the things I’m most passionate about and that is my faith in God. I remember sitting on my bed in tears as I faced the reality that I’d have to go back to work, only to have most of my salary go towards someone else raising our daughter while I was at work. My heart’s prayer was to stay at home with her. In a moment of desperation, I remember opening my Bible to a verse that says, “To Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we could ever ask or imagine, by the power that is at work within us through Christ Jesus… To Him be the glory throughout all generations forever and ever! Amen.” -Ephesians 3:20-21. As tears streamed down my face, I prayed that if God chose to bless this little Zipadee-Zip invention, I’d give Him the glory for it.

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We grew to a $5 million dollar a year, debt-free business in less than 4 years by word of mouth marketing and a $700 investment…which was truly nothing short of miraculous. I feel an incredible responsibility to tell that story as my faith in God is what started it all. It may not be a belief everyone shares, but it’s a story I’m not ashamed of and am willing to speak up about regardless of the backlash. It’s also that faith that led me through one of my biggest trials of my life and ultimately created the community of women that would provide the second purpose that I have spoken up about….

Tell your story: Stories are the most powerful tool you have to affect change and touch hearts in a real and lasting kind of way. Stories are essential when hoping to build a community. There may be a lot of facts or logical reasoning that can support your cause, but nothing will be more powerful than what really connects you to your audience. The most vital ingredients that come into play when telling your story is that it is genuine and true and from the heart.

Our business built on faith led to the story that founded our community. In December of 2013, I lost a baby during pregnancy. It was the most gut-wrenching, excruciating thing I’ve ever endured and I never understood until that moment how much you can love a person you’ve never met before. To top it off, I was running a baby business where I saw photos of cute, healthy babies every day. I didn’t know how to face that, and I quickly got horribly behind on orders. I finally had to tell my customers publically that I had lost a child and to please be patient as I catch up. What resulted impacted me in a way I cannot entirely explain. I was flooded with women who reached out to me to share their losses and words of encouragement with me. They expressed being grateful that someone finally spoke up about an often unspoken struggle. Their stories not only built our community of women in a lasting and beautiful way, but they also helped me heal and move forward. My decision to speak up opened up a new passion in my heart… to help other women to speak up about their struggles and encourage true healing in a place that often goes unaddressed.

Be transparent about your weaknesses:

There is nothing more powerful than genuine transparency. Not only can people relate to it, but everyone secretly craves the ability to just be real without having to go through the walls and masks people often put up to hide their true selves. Deep down everyone wants to be known and when we are willing to open ourselves up to that, great things can happen.

When my husband and I made it on Shark Tank, I was faced with the decision of whether or not to share the loss of our baby and how our community of women helped me heal. I made the decision that if I didn’t speak up, I could miss out on touching someone’s life the way our customers had touched mine. That single decision resulted in an amazing chain of events. After airing on the show, I was contacted by a women named Kelly who was pregnant with a baby that doctors said may not survive to birth due to severe heart conditions. Doctors recommended that she terminate the pregnancy but she shared that after seeing my story on TV, she was renewed with strength and determination to fight for her son. Our community of women surrounded that little boy in prayer and support. Little ‘Finn’ was born on January 2nd of 2015 and is alive and well today. Finn has been in the hospital and his hospital stay prompted our business to raise money for his family and the Ronald McDonald House. The Ronald McDonald House supports families who’s little ones are in the hospital for severe medical conditions. Our company was able to raise tens of thousands of dollars through the community of women that rallied around in support. This was a testament to what big and beautiful things can come from transparency and not being afraid to speak up!

Expect negativity and consider it a compliment: Whenever you unashamedly stand up for what you believe whether it be in business, religiously, philanthropically or otherwise, you are bound to have some naysayers. With the anonymity of the Internet, people feel much freer to share their thoughts. After I shared my story on Shark Tank, I actually had someone accuse me of making up the loss of my baby for publicity reasons! Other people criticized Kelly’s decision to keep a baby that might have medical issues! People can be hurtful, but it’s important to focus on the change and beauty you can bring into this world when you aren’t afraid to speak up! Imagine what could have happened had Martin Luther King, Jr., or Mother Theresa chose not to speak out in words and action… or what could happen if YOU don’t speak up. You biggest fear should not be found in speaking up, but instead missing out on a bigger purpose for your life!

Exceed your potential and SPEAK UP!

I look forward to meeting you at the Speak Up Women Conference on March 5th at the United Nations and hearing about your experience!


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February 16, 2016

Have you ever felt like shouting, “Show Me the MONEY!!!” to someone? I mean really got in that place, like Cuba Gooding Jr.’s character in the movie Jerry McGuire where he is dancing up a storm, laughing, and shouting at Jerry to “show me the money”?

Why not?

What’s holding you back from asking for the money you need – for your business, for a cause you believe in, for others to sponsor an event or buy Girl Scout cookies from your daughter or niece?

Asking for money can cause an emotional response in many of us. Money is funny. It conjures up all kinds of judgments we make about ourselves – and our worth.

The truth is there is a secret code, like a secret handshake, for asking for money. It all begins with confidence and the belief in yourself and what you are asking for the money for.

35483290_mToo many times I hear people say that they can’t figure out where the secret door is to the venture capitalists for their business or that if they found it, they can’t seem to speak the right language to stay in the conversation and engage those they have had the privilege to meet.

Asking for money comes down to a few things.

 

  • What are you asking for the money for? Are you clear about that? You are going to need to articulate this specifically, so make sure you are clear about it yourself.

 

  • Why are you asking for it? Is this a passion project? Are you looking for investors as equity partners, people with whom you will share your business? Are you looking for investors to give you the money to bridge you and your business while you build it and then you will pay them back? When? Are you getting a mortgage for your first home? How many people will you be able to help, serve or solve their issue, such as feeding people or providing access to clean water, if someone gives you the funding? Why is it so important to you to get the money?

 

  • When you get it, what will you apply it to? Be prepared to specify what you are going to do with the money – and why.

 

  • How do you feel, think about and manage money? This is pivotal. Fear is not an ally in these types of conversations. Confidence, competence and courage are. Be prepared to discuss fiscal management of the money you ask for. It’s essential that you know what you want to do with it, how you feel about it, and the words you use to talk about it that matter.

 

So when you are preparing to have your “Show Me the Money!” conversation with someone, practice makes perfect! Interview yourself about how you feel, think and interact with money. Get clear about why you want someone to invest in you and whatever you are asking for the money for. Most of all, check your emotions at the door. And I mean check in on them! Be honest with yourself about how you feel. More than that, check in on how you feel about whether you’re worth it or not. The truth is, you are whatever you believe you’re worth. And trust me, you’re worth it!

So Speak Up!

 

Be sure to attend the Speak Up Women Conference at the United Nations on March 5th which features a Speak Up for Financing Panel with rockstar women experts from the world of financing who can address your specific questions about financing and how to speak up for money.



February 16, 2016

Guest Post from Michelle Tillis Lederman, Panelist, How to Speak Up & What’s Holding You Back Panel at the Speak Up Women Conference

The Law of Giving (Law #10 from my book The 11 Laws of Likability) is a concept that I get exuberantly passionate about when sharing it.  I’ll say, “Give first, give often, give without expectation – giving creates value.”  I was excitedly sharing this concept during a talk on networking, when a woman in the audience loudly grumbled, “I’m tired of giving.” She threw her hands up in the air and continued, “No one ever gives back.” I paused quickly trying to determine why this unlikely result was occurring and coming up empty. Then I questioned, “What have you asked for?” With a look of something between surprise and confusion she thought about it for a moment and then, a bit deflated said, “nothing.”

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It is hard to ask for what you want, but you’ll never get it unless you do. I always say, “If you don’t ask, the answer is no. If you do ask, you immediately increase your odds.” We can’t expect others to read our minds and know what we want (and yes, that includes our spouses.) So let’s talk about how to make ‘the ask’ easy so you can get what you want with the least amount of stress.

First, get clear on your fear. Are you worried you will come off as pushy or annoying? Do you feel guilty that you never did anything for them? Are you worried about jeopardizing the friendship or making them feel uncomfortable?

If any of these sound familiar, choose a strategy to counter your concern. Below are five pressure-free ‘asks’ that snuff the stress out of these situations for you and the person you are asking the favor of.

  • The “Give Them an Out Ask”: When you make this type of request, be sure to give the person an easy way to say ‘no.’ For example, “I am interested in learning more about the day-to-day responsibilities of your job and the company you work for. Would you be available for an informational interview? If you are too swamped with work, though, I understand.”
  • The ‘Alternative Ask”: Give the person an alternative like, “I would love to hear more about the project you are working on. Are you available to talk about it? If not, maybe you can suggest someone else I can talk to.” In this approach, you are giving the person options.
  • The “Shrinking Ask”: This is when you ask for something specific and also offer up a ‘smaller version’ of the favor. You can say, “Are you free to meet for lunch next week. If not, would a phone call be easier for your schedule?”
  • The “Convenient Ask”: Make your ‘ask’ easy to fulfill. The idea is to put the completion of the request on their terms. One way to do this is, “I’d love to set up a time to meet with you next week. Would it be easier for you if I stopped by your office? If so, let me know a day and time that work for your schedule.”
  • The “Non Ask”: Sometimes you can present an opportunity for someone to help without making a direct request. This concept was inspired by Judy Robinett, author of How To Be A Power Connector. When you share your goals and seek advice or ideas you allow other people to make an offer of help without having to ask. For example, “My goal is to make The 11 Laws of Likability a best seller, any advice?”

The only way to get what you want is to ask for it. Most people want to help you but don’t always know how. Consider that in one way you are helping them when you give them the opportunity to help you by making it clear and easy. Keep in mind if they want to say “no,” you want to protect the relationship so let them know it’s okay. Next time you are hesitant to ask try one of these techniques and go ahead and ask for something you want. And let me know what happens!

I look forward to meeting you at the Speak Up Women Conference on March 5th at the United Nations and hearing about your experience!

 

 

Michelle Tillis Lederman, (www.michelletillislederman.com), author of The 11 Laws of Likability and Heroes Get Hired, is the founder of Executive Essentials, a training company providing communications and leadership programs.

Michelle’s has appeared on CBS, NBC, Fox 5, and over 100 radio shows nationwide including; Gayle King, NPR, and Martha Stewart Living. She has been quoted in the New York Times, Working Mother, US News & World Report, and Monster.com among others. Her book, articles, quizzes and videos have been featured on USA Today, AOL, Forbes, CNBC, and About.com.

She received her BS from Lehigh University and her MBA from Columbia Business School. Connect with Michelle at Twitter.com/mtlederman or Facebook.com/MichelleTillisLederman.

 

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February 16, 2016

Guest Post from Laura Fredricks, Panelist, Speak Up for Financing Panel at the Speak Up Women Conference

I was doing a radio interview with a fabulous, bright young entrepreneur named Maddy who was starting her own business creating 3-D patterns to make clothes. I was brought on the show specifically to hear her story and give my advice on how she could raise the money to launch her new business. She just did a TED Talk on the topic, so her energy and her promise of a successful business were sky high.

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Maddy told me she had some initial people in mind to ask for the money. One in particular was her mentor, the person who helped her create the business plan for this new venture. Maddy was very organized about her approach to asking people for money. She said her mentor would be “fabulous” to ask because “she was wealthy and really liked” Maddy. Maddy had in mind asking her for a serious six-figure investment in her business. When I asked Maddy why she hadn’t already asked her mentor for money, she couldn’t answer me. Her reluctance to ask puzzled her; she didn’t think her mentor would be offended or that it would alienate their relationship.

So I asked Maddy one simple question: “What does money mean to you?” She looked surprised and answered, “I hadn’t really thought about it. Why did you ask?”

I replied, “When you ask for money, this comes up. All the emotions, feelings, attitudes, and beliefs you have about money come flooding in; I am certain that is why you haven’t asked her for money.”

She thought about it and said, “I think you’re right; I better give this some thought.”

I told her to try to think of money as the best 3-D pattern she ever created, that it was green and flowed and would be the model outfit that every designer envied and copied. Then she should ask her mentor for money.

I circled back with Maddy a few weeks later, and I received the most wonderful email from her. She asked her mentor for money, and her mentor was giving her much more than she asked. Way to go, Maddy!

The first step in anyone’s journey when you ask for money is to answer “What does money mean to you?” It’s the step that everyone skips over. The focus is always on how much to ask for and who to ask. But if you do not have a good relationship with money any ask you make will not go well. If you need to work out your money worries, and have the best relationship with money, I have a 30-Day FREE Money Wellness Program you can check out.

The next step is where you have to change your mindset. Memorize this, live by this and watch your finance asks skyrocket:

When you ASK for Money, You are Not Taking Something Away. You are giving Someone an Opportunity.

Think of Maddy. Her first thoughts were that she would be taking something away from her mentor not what she would be adding to her mentor’s business and her mentor’s life.

In my 25+ years of training and coaching CEO’s; President’s: Four-Star Generals; Multi-millionaire entrepreneurs, Rabbis, Priests, and anyone who wants to start or enhance a business or a charity, the #1 thing that holds them back~ they project that asking for money means taking something away. Just think about this. The ask has not even been made and we are already second-guessing that the person will say no because it will take away their money! Practice my money opportunity mantra and believe in the opportunities you can offer many people from this moment forward. For more great practical and success tips on how to ask for money, you can read my bestselling book: “The ASK: How to ASK for Your Nonprofit Cause, Creative Project, or Business Venture”.

Here is your real motivation to have the best relationship with money. People who worry about money are:

  • 3x more likely to have a digestive disorder;
  • 10x more likely to suffer from headaches or migraines; and
  • 6x more likely to experience depression.

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EVERY decision you make in life involves money. Do you buy coffee or make coffee? Do you take mass transit or do you drive? Do you take a vacation away or take the time to just stay home? Do you have an extravagant wedding or something smaller with close family and friends? The list goes on and on, but once you realize that EVERY decision you make in life involves money, which can build up so much stress and affect your health, you should put every effort into having the best relationship with money. In my most recent book just out February 2016: “Money Wellness: Is Money Making Your $ick?”, I take a deep dive into how our thoughts about money affect our happiness; sleep; diet; exercise; relaxation; spirituality; creativity; and yes, even our fun. I then share numerous ways you can work through and beyond some major Money Blockers that are preventing you from asking for money. So if you are like many people and you want to have the best relationship with money and NOT have it affect your health, this book is your salvation!

Now that you have the tools to have the best relationship with money and you know that asking for money is an opportunity, is there a right way to ask? My resounding answer is YES. Over the years I have brought:

Organization – Structure – Focus

to the process of making the ASK so that you can see there is a process, the right way to ask anyone for money. I created THE FIVE STEP PROCESS FOR ANY ASK. In life, people gravitate towards structure and process so that their activity is not random, or unpredictable. The Five Step Process For Any Ask places structure to what otherwise may be a random and unpredictable ask. I’ve worked with many people and organizations world-wide with this process with amazing results. Want to know what it is so that YOU can have resounding results when you ask for money for your business or yourself?

Well, I will share it with you at the Speak Up Women Conference on March 5, 2016 at the United Nations! See you there!!